the questions you brought up persist in my head. instagram, and many picture-based social medias, are merely tools these days. instead of sharing raw, unfiltered glimpses of our lives, it has become highly curated. even the posts that might seem niche or 'authentic' are made-up and planned thoroughly. certain account means certain images that have to be maintained. there's nothing wrong with that. but how we approach and distinguish the difference is what counts. W post!!
Wow, thank you so much for writing this, it's exactly what I thought about the current situation of instagram. 'Casual insta' is not casual at all. I too have been Ellie and it took so much trial and error to have a better relationship with instagram. It includes quitting off social media for a few months. It really helps shift how i view and use insta.
totally!!! that's how i feel EXACTLY. at this point i only use social media if i have a major announcement i want to share with all my friends and family, other than that it's fully deleted. (except substack ofc!)
Yeah I agree with this so much. I used to be like your friend and cared so much about getting likes and comments on an IG post, but I feel like now as I’ve made more friends and found more hobbies, I don’t care as much. This is pretty spot on
This hit so deeply. The part about how "it’s easy to say social media doesn’t matter when it’s not you" really got me. I've been Ellie too. So many of us have. The performance of not caring is still a performance, and the weight we place on these tiny digital moments can feel massive... because they are, to us. Thank you for articulating something so many of us feel but rarely say out loud.
love your writing style and love this point — i’m someone who majorly overthinks when i post on insta and pride myself on seeming “casual” and my one condolence to myself is that it seems like everyone else has the same problem
the questions you brought up persist in my head. instagram, and many picture-based social medias, are merely tools these days. instead of sharing raw, unfiltered glimpses of our lives, it has become highly curated. even the posts that might seem niche or 'authentic' are made-up and planned thoroughly. certain account means certain images that have to be maintained. there's nothing wrong with that. but how we approach and distinguish the difference is what counts. W post!!
THANK YOU MY DOVE!!!!! appreciate you beyond words <3
Wow, thank you so much for writing this, it's exactly what I thought about the current situation of instagram. 'Casual insta' is not casual at all. I too have been Ellie and it took so much trial and error to have a better relationship with instagram. It includes quitting off social media for a few months. It really helps shift how i view and use insta.
totally!!! that's how i feel EXACTLY. at this point i only use social media if i have a major announcement i want to share with all my friends and family, other than that it's fully deleted. (except substack ofc!)
Yeah I agree with this so much. I used to be like your friend and cared so much about getting likes and comments on an IG post, but I feel like now as I’ve made more friends and found more hobbies, I don’t care as much. This is pretty spot on
awww thank you!!! i appreciate that :D
This hit so deeply. The part about how "it’s easy to say social media doesn’t matter when it’s not you" really got me. I've been Ellie too. So many of us have. The performance of not caring is still a performance, and the weight we place on these tiny digital moments can feel massive... because they are, to us. Thank you for articulating something so many of us feel but rarely say out loud.
ahh thank you so much for the kind comment and for reading <33
love your writing style and love this point — i’m someone who majorly overthinks when i post on insta and pride myself on seeming “casual” and my one condolence to myself is that it seems like everyone else has the same problem
THANK YOU SO SO SO MUCH!!!! and trust, 99.99% of people do. now i don't have socials at all (i wrote this in may) and it feels so good!!!